{"id":562,"date":"2025-12-12T17:40:52","date_gmt":"2025-12-12T17:40:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/?p=562"},"modified":"2025-12-12T17:40:54","modified_gmt":"2025-12-12T17:40:54","slug":"she-forgot-me-first","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/?p=562","title":{"rendered":"She Forgot Me First"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-cover aligncenter is-light mycontentblock has-medium-font-size wp-duotone-000000-7bdcb5-1\" style=\"margin-top:0;margin-bottom:var(--wp--preset--spacing--50);padding-top:0;padding-bottom:0;min-height:90px;aspect-ratio:unset;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"186\" class=\"wp-block-cover__image-background wp-image-198 size-large\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1024x186.png\" style=\"object-position:50% 50%\" data-object-fit=\"cover\" data-object-position=\"50% 50%\" srcset=\"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1024x186.png 1024w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-300x54.png 300w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-768x139.png 768w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1536x279.png 1536w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-2048x372.png 2048w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1320x239.png 1320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-cover__background has-background-dim-0 has-background-dim\"><\/span><div class=\"wp-block-cover__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-cover-is-layout-4d396166 wp-block-cover-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center my-cover-title has-ast-global-color-8-color has-pale-ocean-gradient-background has-text-color has-background has-link-color has-small-font-size wp-elements-5984fd672f43e8a704274b512c95eb14\"><strong>She Forgot Me First<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-622dc82a83e8627eb0425ae9e56645d5\">No calls. I saw my daughter online \u2013 traveling, smiling. I kept reaching out. She was \u2018busy,\u2019 \u2018stressed.\u2019 I realized I was grieving someone still alive. So I changed my will. She said, <strong>\u2018You\u2019re still my mom!\u2019 I said, \u2018Exactly.\u2019 Then she got a letter from my lawyer saying I was leaving everything to someone else.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n    atOptions = {\n        'key' : '9e49f4ce267f7bab92bbdb38b733742b',\n        'format' : 'iframe',\n        'height' : 90,\n        'width' : 728,\n        'params' : {}\n    };\n<\/script>\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"\/\/brillianceremisswhistled.com\/9e49f4ce267f7bab92bbdb38b733742b\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7ad3b81f789e5999951ab101c871e9b6\">It wasn\u2019t easy to do that. The pen felt like a hammer in my hand when I signed those papers. Every stroke chipped away at thirty-four years of motherhood, scraped against memories I had packed away like fine china\u2014gently, lovingly, hoping one day she\u2019d return and admire them too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b7743c9aa667098cd8402c2647eb8fdf\">I hadn\u2019t heard her voice in seven months<strong> when I made the change.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c2c484e734d0873e216348b30adaac03\">It wasn\u2019t always like this. When she was little, she used to run into my arms so fast I\u2019d nearly lose my balance. Her tiny arms would wrap around my waist, and she\u2019d say, \u201cYou\u2019re my favorite person in the world, Mama.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-66da105cba59068c6756804f96b20a3a\">She used to write me little notes on Post-its and hide them around the house. \u201cYou\u2019re the best chef!\u201d or \u201cThanks for loving me even when I\u2019m bratty.\u201d I kept them in a box in my drawer. I still have them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-fd1504c14d51cade749d49d758b7f3f5\">But time passed, as it always does. She grew up. Moved to the city. Took a job in marketing. Then came the boyfriend, then the trips to Bali, to Croatia, to places I couldn\u2019t even pronounce. She\u2019d post pictures with captions like, \u201cLiving my best life!\u201d And I\u2019d double-tap them from my recliner, my eyes full of tears she never saw.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c40196459f2ca172c47b80afcdfe1f90\">At first, I called once a week. Then once a month. Then I stopped calling altogether because each unanswered call felt like slamming my hand in a door. She said she was \u201cbusy,\u201d \u201ctired,\u201d \u201cgoing through a lot.\u201d But she had time for parties, for skydiving, for posting pictures with friends I\u2019d never met.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-37ab75bb042c3be78768d755086cd613\">I started grieving her like I\u2019d grieved her father when he passed. But this time, the ghost haunted my phone screen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-47422163bbb2827e183d5c7e332218c9\">So I changed my will. Not out of bitterness. Out of clarity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-dc8ba011da80540e7d2d400de59d7dfe\">I decided to leave everything to someone who had been there when I truly needed help\u2014my neighbor, Mr. Wendell. He was 78, slow-moving but full of kindness. When I slipped on the front steps last winter and couldn\u2019t get up, it was Wendell who heard my cries. He called the ambulance. He visited me in the hospital every day with crossword puzzles and jellybeans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-189d1219063e8a67bac4d2a1f32b0112\">When I got home, he made sure I had soup, that my pipes didn\u2019t freeze, that my mailbox was empty. We sat on my porch some evenings, watching the birds. He never talked too much, just enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-742b8fdc3b72e0b5a9f96a5ef48ab771\">So when I called my lawyer, I told him the truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-abd5feab0ad5f153dd2dd7340f2d14c1\">\u201cShe forgot me first.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-59659863f78193f5913d45bb6d269733\">The letter went out a week later. Two days after that, my phone rang.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-36cc99e7d9e18fbd653d1f20cec9a1dc\">It was her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-20311ed6fa19003e6c291240198534f3\">\u201cMom?\u201d Her voice was small. \u201cYou changed your will?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5570ac1d1777973431aa12cf5fd862d9\">I stayed silent for a moment. Then I said, \u201cI\u2019m glad to hear your voice.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a05c30b2b3a3c45bc16c090499c2799f\">She ignored that. \u201cWhy would you do that? You\u2019re still my mom.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-8f8b272c2993bad7020d152797781d20\">\u201cExactly.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-bb59c8820a7095e9f7fb00f38ae71457\">Silence again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-2d4dae9656f897346c9931c3ebe40fa4\">Then she asked, \u201cSo who is this guy you\u2019re giving everything to?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5cc21306ddf9c6abcab2ef15578ec4e4\">\u201cHis name is Wendell. He shovels my walkway. He brings me soup. He talks to me on days I feel invisible.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5554fad6e9e94e5d9c4c63872acd060d\">There was a long pause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6ed3d3bc960789370ae8fafd9cb1cb2c\">\u201cThat\u2019s manipulative, you know.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f03739b8b548e3e99115e8b1e99f835b\">I didn\u2019t argue. There was no point. When love turns into obligation, it curdles. I wasn\u2019t trying to guilt her. I was just telling the truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-785cf83d50fae935a88fc2bfb7e51d0f\">She hung up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a96aca9208c56635a9763b50298761f1\">A week passed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7f27da241e25a6df20998cf8ed711438\">Then one morning, I heard a knock. I peeked through the curtain. It was her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-3c740af09e31027add1430fd24352f24\">My breath caught. I opened the door slowly, expecting an explosion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-24d34daac672c125f7eaae416aef7800\">Instead, she looked down at her shoes and said, \u201cI brought coffee. Your favorite. Hazelnut.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-23197d759b9209f519ca78b7af1bed93\">We sat on the porch, two strangers with the same eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-adbdc1f25741e6d21e57f8ebddd20a47\">\u201cI didn\u2019t know you felt like that,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-13d853d502caae748bb706c0a1d9eadd\">\u201cI didn\u2019t either, at first. I just missed you. Then I started getting used to missing you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-de7fe074fc95037c7072fb66cb6aff7a\">She frowned. \u201cYou could\u2019ve told me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b4224e289f52ae3dc1f0ab1f6118178c\">\u201cI tried,\u201d I said gently. \u201cBut you were busy, remember?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7e01821f50249c4e6acdf44f7f0e87d0\">She bit her lip. \u201cI didn\u2019t mean to push you away. Life got\u2026 overwhelming. And I guess I thought you\u2019d always be there.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f9354a32f0ee1af2bc2a71dc3215a0e2\">\u201cI was. Until I wasn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-28007bc6876514816811d0dca8cf95ff\">We both looked out at the yard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d433716d9ad875604db79268a0c0a0c0\">Then she did something unexpected. She pulled out a notebook. \u201cI made a list,\u201d she said. \u201cOf all the times you were there for me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c2868c6ac5902f2d708ca5a9b224b8b1\">She started reading. First steps. First heartbreak. First job interview. She even remembered the time I drove five hours just to bring her a spare laptop charger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-8aea9dbda238f9331b3032f1e3d1ea3e\">\u201cI guess I forgot the most important parts,\u201d she whispered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-925db037929a87f9f7c0d0eaad0b5dc2\">I didn\u2019t cry, but I felt something unfreeze inside me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6f039afcc8d8dc83bef8c8e818ff32bc\">After that visit, she started calling. Not every day. Not like a movie. But enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-444218c4b300aec4ba410c9518a309d7\">We had lunches. We had silences that weren\u2019t awkward. She asked about Wendell, even brought him pie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-995f282f6c0acffe9e9a3b275187a210\">A few months later, she asked about the will again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a0257257495cce01cc5f69fa76b70b33\">\u201cI\u2019m not asking you to change it,\u201d she said. \u201cI just want you to know I see you now. I remember.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-2042fd20cc363af09d16540e4932ae0e\">And just when I thought that was the moral arc of my story\u2014a daughter returning to her mother\u2014life tossed in a twist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-ad5c4ff0e816f66fd67f8689954933d6\">Wendell passed away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-588bf50b475de516ad2d1de37db63a99\">He had gone to sleep in his recliner and never woke up. Peaceful. Quiet. Alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-adc61ea740f97582e3ec6692c7b2237f\">I attended the funeral. She came with me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-3bf0f08e4514d4d5aa82a691ccab4257\">There were only five people there, including us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-598b72e175dd2e55e666390304bc2ab6\">Afterward, I found a letter in my mailbox. From Wendell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-99bd8055b133d386df8e077e4ce7aa30\">He had rewritten his own will, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c7a4c5a126c76599c02c0400286e5bc7\">He left me his house. A modest little thing. But it was the letter that gutted me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-e5ab656d95c3d6ac47d2a529ebcad8f6\">\u201cI never had children. But if I had, I\u2019d have wanted one like you. Thank you for seeing me when I was invisible.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-27af129a3dabbad39198df1fc2f0b81a\">I wept that night. For him. For every forgotten person. For every mother and father sitting by a phone that doesn\u2019t ring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7d2590433a3c54d8f63070bbe9f3ff51\">My daughter came over the next morning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0d5a9a2fd0cdf7838e4590745ccbf8ec\">She hugged me before she said anything. \u201cI want to start something,\u201d she said. \u201cA foundation. For elderly folks who don\u2019t have anyone. I\u2019ll name it after Wendell.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-19aec321d809f6b5502c8aad5aa18c4f\">I stared at her. \u201cYou\u2019d do that?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-afb19fc71aba42ce60eb84e95a59c1f3\">\u201cI want to be someone who shows up.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9360b20a5a70dabdc848c7218643354d\">Months passed again. This time, I noticed the difference. She came to doctor\u2019s appointments. She helped me clean out the attic. She even asked if I wanted to visit Bali.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-cc4341164a7fb548550161e374b7ce94\">\u201cI think you\u2019d love the sunsets,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9a9df376433f76616a4642d13e447df1\">We didn\u2019t erase the past. That\u2019s not how life works. But we built something on top of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-58a06205ad6d3b2200586f90e6c45174\">Eventually, I changed my will back. But I also added a clause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-e1010c8f1442bdb909e354d9662b1203\">A part would go to Wendell\u2019s foundation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-40e5fb20b82f9479c6cef014bb24d4a3\">The rest to her, on one condition: she had to volunteer at the foundation four times a year, in person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-23fbd1446ff8b62234ead4e016ac381c\">She agreed without hesitation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-abbf2e08883672b83c8ce2616cdf2fbb\">Years later, when I was too tired to garden or cook, she came over with her kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-12f777e52458b55ef05601e401234533\">They helped me plant daffodils in the spring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-e73d889cb28e92c6c380c1564bba2fb6\">And every year, she reads them the story of Wendell. About how kindness isn\u2019t always grand. Sometimes it\u2019s a bowl of soup, a shoveled walkway, or sitting beside someone quietly until they feel seen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-43c6db3dc2d0b0a30a32d7c3d900a701\">So here\u2019s what I learned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-94dcfb1406e0c1aae48d971ca0c005de\">Love isn\u2019t loud. It\u2019s not always Instagrammable. Sometimes love is a quiet neighbor who listens. Sometimes it\u2019s a daughter who forgets and then remembers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-4c56f4b9125d1025c810c6fc4446c5cc\">And sometimes, love is letting go of who someone was so they have a chance to become who they were meant to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b59a60885127a815c49c7288df34cdbc\">I grieved her once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d18930f5f547ea2f30547ccae187b0e4\">Now, I thank God for second chances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5810fe67713eb5676cd3b170da5c7512\"><strong>If this story touched you\u2014even a little\u2014share it with someone who needs to remember that it\u2019s never too late to show up. 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