{"id":1613,"date":"2026-01-02T14:26:34","date_gmt":"2026-01-02T14:26:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/?p=1613"},"modified":"2026-01-02T14:26:36","modified_gmt":"2026-01-02T14:26:36","slug":"what-grief-didnt-break-truth-rebuilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/?p=1613","title":{"rendered":"What Grief Didn\u2019t Break, Truth Rebuilt"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-cover aligncenter is-light mycontentblock has-medium-font-size wp-duotone-cf2e2e-ffffff-1\" style=\"margin-top:0;margin-bottom:var(--wp--preset--spacing--50);padding-top:0;padding-bottom:0;min-height:129px;aspect-ratio:unset;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"186\" class=\"wp-block-cover__image-background wp-image-198 size-large\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1024x186.png\" style=\"object-position:50% 50%\" data-object-fit=\"cover\" data-object-position=\"50% 50%\" srcset=\"https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1024x186.png 1024w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-300x54.png 300w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-768x139.png 768w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1536x279.png 1536w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-2048x372.png 2048w, https:\/\/vibepress.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Screenshot-2025-12-04-at-2.47.25-PM-1-1320x239.png 1320w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-cover__background has-background-dim-0 has-background-dim\"><\/span><div class=\"wp-block-cover__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-cover-is-layout-4d396166 wp-block-cover-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center my-cover-title has-ast-global-color-8-color has-ast-global-color-5-background-color has-text-color has-background has-link-color has-small-font-size wp-elements-d96e381e1f572b56a5a44185f4204d45\"><strong>What Grief Didn\u2019t Break, Truth Rebuilt<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-18977bc2c4986479346fba23b71b90cf\">I lost my husband. He had substantial life insurance. It gave us something to hold onto. But in-laws demanded a portion. I was shocked and explained that I needed to prioritize our kids. Guilt trips began. One day, my son came to me, confused, <strong>\u201cGrandma said Daddy would be disappointed in you.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n    atOptions = {\n        'key' : '9e49f4ce267f7bab92bbdb38b733742b',\n        'format' : 'iframe',\n        'height' : 90,\n        'width' : 728,\n        'params' : {}\n    };\n<\/script>\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"\/\/brillianceremisswhistled.com\/9e49f4ce267f7bab92bbdb38b733742b\/invoke.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7a580245e6ca071246e601652b9190fb\">My stomach dropped. He was only seven. Still grieving. Still waking up at night calling for his dad. And now, someone he trusted was planting doubt in his little heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-36ae7647c2d71d23ebad3ffddbee2e54\">I knelt down and held his face gently. \u201cHoney, Daddy would never want us to fight. He loved you more than anything. And he\u2019d want Mommy to take care of you and your sister. That\u2019s what I\u2019m doing.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-01266a4ab3481eef4b0d84b9b220942a\">He nodded, but I saw the tension in his eyes. A part of him wasn\u2019t sure. Because kids believe adults. Especially sweet grandmas who bake cookies and kiss boo-boos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6e23d1b126880b087fe03175655d4f0b\">My husband, Cal, had been a kind man. A simple man. He didn\u2019t come from money, but he worked hard. He made it clear in every conversation that his family was the one he built with me and our kids. When he got that job promotion and signed up for the life insurance, he said, \u201cJust in case life throws something at us, you won\u2019t have to carry it alone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-41659fb6cd3376aa02be399a43ad371f\">I hadn\u2019t imagined I\u2019d be cashing it in before we were even 40.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-61e82afd4f0648924d45b70ad9814505\">When he passed\u2014suddenly, in a car accident\u2014my world imploded. I cried in the pantry so the kids wouldn\u2019t see. I smiled at school drop-offs and died a little each time I opened the front door to our now-too-quiet house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-1dc0be5e4d769246eafb3efb622c04e1\">Then came the money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-aac07390fa52273ceb3465e6da37b1ff\">At first, I didn\u2019t want to touch it. It felt dirty. Like taking a reward for something that shattered my heart. But rent came due. The kids needed new clothes. And I wanted to give them something normal\u2014maybe not Disneyland, but soccer cleats and dance lessons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a51cb461d08a8e65e75ee5694b35cbd4\">Then came his mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-580e6cd83ff6c8558ee30141fc5364de\">At the funeral, she was all tears and trembling hands. I hugged her tight and tried to be strong for both of us. But a week later, she came by with her brother and a manila envelope. Inside? A \u201cbreakdown\u201d of what she felt she was owed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-ff887a47b3280815262a93b826471ce3\">\u201cCal would have wanted to take care of his family,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d2ebd055da712a4a41b9c454da7e137a\">\u201cI am his family,\u201d I replied softly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-fa34993b21f094e802b9852e9023ad2b\">\u201cYou know what I mean,\u201d she said, tight-lipped. \u201cHis original family. He always helped us. You know we\u2019re on a fixed income.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7156fd7dc6ecaf556bb27a8fd72aaec8\">I told her gently that I\u2019d make sure they were okay if they ever needed help. But the insurance was for the kids and our future. That didn\u2019t sit well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-3f0d49ca2f68c2d5af25018119751002\">That week, I got calls from his sister. Then a cousin. Then a neighbor. Apparently, my grief wasn\u2019t enough\u2014I also had to navigate a quiet smear campaign. They said I was selfish. That I was hiding money. That I never really loved Cal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-effdfd7954469a43c0c7aa2a7b7cbd5e\">I tried to ignore it. I had two kids, no job, and a mountain of paperwork.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7ac0a6181ce3be6a09d662344fc54c30\">Then came the day my son mentioned what Grandma said. And I realized\u2014this wasn\u2019t going to stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-3b0e46cba25f3f07b81d8e158abd4130\">I decided to set boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-953b46f8b84a1e6ec41ebb7c3ffad225\">I sent a respectful message to his immediate family explaining the purpose of the insurance, my plans for the children\u2019s education and stability, and that I wouldn\u2019t be entertaining any further discussions about \u201csplitting\u201d it. I said I was open to visits, but manipulation and guilt-tripping wouldn\u2019t be welcome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0224cf1a28f5d0ea197687ef6f0a1c0d\">That\u2019s when it got ugly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-59a44c25f10951afb6e3ef54f5be7008\">His mother stopped visiting. She told people I banned her from seeing her grandkids. She cried to the pastor at our church. I started getting side-eyes during Sunday service.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9454215550d054eb797ba94c1a864c9b\">But life, as it does, kept moving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-11a47a11408dda8e299be2a99535bd63\">I went back to work part-time. Took some online classes. Paid off a few debts. Set up trust accounts for the kids. I tried to rebuild our lives piece by piece.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a71cc4da69b010e37de2e730d964f79e\">Two years passed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d43ad5467e58b2df8dfddb854641e7b1\">One evening, my daughter, who was ten now, came into my room and asked, \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t Grandma send me birthday cards anymore?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-704339baa88c1f01b4db4501373b5f6b\">I didn\u2019t have the heart to tell her the truth. That adults, even older ones, can hold grudges so tightly they forget who\u2019s caught in the middle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-51f98dc6d2eb850c1e534a04a0c7b5f6\">So I just said, \u201cSometimes people get hurt and don\u2019t know how to fix it. But it\u2019s not your fault.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d83a23e1ecab6f540e8ba9803f10b0d0\">That night, I cried again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-2c7740a159356a16e461a3629d0d2509\">Not for myself. But for what my kids had lost\u2014a dad, and now, a whole half of their family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5108cb7725076026c8536b3926eecb4c\">A month later, something unexpected happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f0015eecf637d6da1d3c4b61473b72a3\">A woman messaged me on Facebook. Her name was Darla. I didn\u2019t recognize her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-7807644a5787a6ceff3926698137c560\">She wrote, \u201cHi. You don\u2019t know me, but I knew Cal back in college. I heard about what happened. I\u2019m so sorry for your loss. I also wanted to tell you something\u2026 I didn\u2019t know if I should, but I think you deserve to know.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f71a91988ce0e706c355298e373361d2\">My heart raced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-10d6c5a497d7fea4c233224b3ef8476c\">She said she and Cal had briefly dated before me. Nothing serious. But years later, he had reached out to her\u2014not for romance, but for advice. Apparently, his mother had a gambling problem years ago and had asked him for money regularly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-fd5ca3bbe663d065325ed585ce9ce678\">\u201cI helped him find a support group for family members of addicts. He was trying to set boundaries with her,\u201d Darla said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-03432e4f40f285162cad494f1585bf8b\">I sat there, stunned. Cal never told me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6ba5f44cd72885fb829173c2e77b25dc\">But it made sense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-e32870e181349c9095422c4de1b62988\">Her demands. Her emotional manipulation. The way money seemed to be the lever she always pulled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-20c6b7ca3f16d9f4a86c9d305bab2cd0\">I thanked Darla. And that night, I sat with everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-603e62ad1cf8635f0bd68798063e6530\">Cal had tried to protect us. Even in silence. Even from family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-001da090c6e9cb1308e652a5e6428eed\">And now I understood why he had insisted on that life insurance. Why he told me once, \u201cIf anything happens to me, don\u2019t let them make you feel bad for protecting the kids.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f2e88a7f1483c11eaad3c42b51fc3be2\">That week, I did something bold. I printed photos of Cal with the kids. Framed them. And sent one to his mother. Along with a letter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-ef53f2c851d62ee9e1da20778426e388\">In it, I wrote:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b1d40188665b2f1805b1fa7777201205\">\u201cI know you\u2019re hurting. So are we. But hurting each other won\u2019t bring him back. He loved you. And he loved us. Please don\u2019t make me choose between honoring him and protecting our children. You\u2019re welcome in our lives, if you come with love. Not with demands.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-4a670a625882942dd38e423c2c91a646\">I didn\u2019t expect a reply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-46fb41faa1d066bd51936b30d0b66970\">But two weeks later, there was a knock on the door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-36cc99e7d9e18fbd653d1f20cec9a1dc\">It was her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0f7fbb560134eb5d256aa1cc005925a3\">Tired eyes. Wrinkled hands. Holding the photo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-8825de366de423f62471252ab7087316\">She looked at me and said, \u201cI lost my son. And I let bitterness take more from me. I\u2019m sorry.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-e5376d938db6804393c8b2139cc60628\">I let her in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-04ca8c831f8835b6cbd50b7ed709a124\">That evening, she sat with the kids. Told stories about Cal as a boy. Laughed. Cried. And for the first time in two years, we were a family again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a19726681d42d851327c11bb74b25efe\">She never asked about the money again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c3b9bb7e3d344e243bfdd62fbc64d213\">She started coming by once a week. Sometimes just to drop off cookies. Sometimes to take the kids to the park. She even started volunteering at their school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0171feb75c5bd3e1298a86a37be5ed8a\">I found out later from a friend at church that she\u2019d quietly paid back a debt she owed\u2014to a bingo hall in the next town. She never mentioned it to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a68f35446ff3bb1a58e6ea6238582c23\">But I saw the change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-37ca04dce129baf3bb31497cc632ee65\">The guilt trips stopped. The rumors faded. And slowly, people at church smiled at me again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-139dc22d8fa8129d5f31ddc3f2f8f39d\">Life didn\u2019t get easier. But it got warmer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6daeea0873afa7bd6fef9bd8429f4345\">I took on more hours at work. I saved. I planned a trip with the kids. We went to a quiet lake Cal had once loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-92bb6ff9431113f4af2369f638352822\">And one evening, sitting by the water, my son asked, \u201cDo you think Daddy\u2019s proud of us?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-3adf4be43ef184791ae3fba09cc20151\">I looked at his sister, skipping stones, and back at him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b37d37acbe5e0f38bee3d274bc598ab7\">\u201cI think he\u2019d say we\u2019re doing okay,\u201d I said. \u201cBetter than okay.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-10d80b4a85b04b6e881a8b95411e2a22\">He nodded, smiling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d27400232fe66ad3250f423ee16b3669\">I never remarried. Maybe one day I will. But for now, my life is full\u2014with the memories of a good man, the laughter of my children, and the peace of knowing I stood my ground with grace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-ef9488fda00545c028a4fe6edf5454b3\">Sometimes, grief breaks you open. But it also shows you what you\u2019re made of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0d53ac0ec1345be7d2c6ac4abfcaded5\">I learned that protecting your peace isn\u2019t selfish. That setting boundaries doesn\u2019t make you unkind. And that people can change, if given time, truth, and love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-da375611816c4a4cdda7d0faf1f75431\">So if you\u2019re going through something similar\u2014if you\u2019re carrying grief, or pressure, or guilt from people who should know better\u2014take heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-59c3a83cca44fe1776676e27d13a13cf\">You don\u2019t owe anyone your stability. Especially not those who weaponize your vulnerability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-19c57dc0fefdbc95524ee3d00c5ca854\">But you can choose love. Even if it takes a while. Even if it looks different than you imagined.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-60a244f4932edfeccc002b1f5cd849a4\">Because at the end of it all, what matters most is what you build and protect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-27bb869c4b7f65240a58d9c6c14ec360\">And healing\u2014real, honest healing\u2014is worth every difficult conversation, every boundary drawn, and every tear cried in the pantry at midnight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-ast-global-color-8-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0355313a6118f0a894277b1220aff18a\">Thanks for reading. If this touched you in any way, please like and share\u2014it might help someone else feel less alone.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I lost my husband. He had substantial life insurance. It gave us something to hold onto. 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